In February of 2017, I got my first book deal. I thought it was progress. EtcetEra Forum . When I was working on a project last summer (TWO YEARS after I blocked them), one of the other contributors was approached by a close friend of Bear’s who wanted to provide a warning about the sort of person I am: This is not the only time this has happened. View all 1 threadmarks.

It was ugly, and it was hard, and I was scared, even then, of what would happen if I mishandled things, so I let myself be used and pressured and exploited and made to feel small.

Liz Gorinsky @ @2muchexposition. Scott Lynch (born April 2, 1978) is an American fantasy author who wrote the Gentleman Bastard series of novels. ...Apparently I don’t have that luxury anymore. At every point, all I wanted was for these two people I cared about to be okay. While that could be traumatic, as you're describing it, that's not quite what Bear was saying.

I’m afraid of career repercussions, for one. Lynch was 37, Bear was 43 -- both respected writers with long-established careers. There are other posts from a number of people both supporting and contradicting Rowland's account, which I can't all piece together ATM. I feel regardless of what anything, Scott Lynch almost certainly did major wrong by his wife. If you search their names on Twitter there's tons of info out there. ResetEra Games of the Decade Awards (2010-2019), https://www.alexandrarowland.net/single-post/2020/06/25/On-Scott-Lynch-and-Elizabeth-Bear, r/Fantasy - r/Fantasy Stands with Victims of Abuse Coming Forward: Statement & Megathread, numerous women in the publishing industry, wrote a thread about what happened to her, announced he was ending his relationship with Krueger, Alexandra Erin and others questioned the apology, Cole made a similar apology in 2018 over different allegations. Prev.

I eventually, finally, managed to hit my limit. Everyone is being accused of inappropriate behavior. Thanks for the info Ran. It’s a private matter, IMO, and so far Bear and Lynch seem to be muddling along with their lives like most people do. This is one thousand percent what’s known as “projection” (and also “hypocrisy”): Women abusers can be especially difficult to pin down, because they work very hard at wrenching the narrative around to to “Actually, *I’M* the victim here, and the person accusing me is the REAL abuser.” Bear did this very thing to me when we were still in the thick of the situation: There were times I hesitantly tried to speak up and set a boundary, and she told me that I had no right to “play the victim card”, that I wasn’t owning my agency or taking responsibility for my own actions or the ways that I had hurt her.   Your link has been automatically embedded.

I hate it when women blame the other woman when their husband cheats on them. Grooming is for non-consenting persons. Her accusations that she was afraid that Scott would ruin her career if she didn't have a relationship with him don't sound true when she says how 'grooming fucks with her mind' later. Now you know.

I deserved better than this. But as for Rowland herself, it's harder to say. I told him briefly about what Bear had said and expressed my worries--I didn’t tell him about the sexual aspect of my relationship with Lynch, as I didn’t feel comfortable divulging that to someone with whom I had a professional relationship. 1; 2; First Prev 2 of 2 Go to page. But basically yeah the crux here really is if there's a pattern. has also written a disturbing thread on Cole's actions, different treatment of Krueger, who is a person of color, and Cole, who is a white man, while the same treatment has so far not happened to Cole, discusses additional allegations against Sykes. Of note Lawrence was a relatively new author in 2016 and had a much smaller following than Schwab (still does 28k to 125k) there are screen shots of twitter threads but no actual siccing of his followers on her, however that isn't an excuse for being ignorant of how social media works and not thinking about what retweeting the review might cause. Start a new thread to share your experiences with like-minded people. Like, it is definitely possible to imagine a situation from what Rowland describes in which you were naive and careless and ended up badly hurting people you cared about. I'm going to wait out on this one as it seems there will be a lot of people that can possibly collaborate on either side. At least I fully understand why would she hate Rowland. Imagine being abused by someone for a very long time, not having it publically known, and then being at a convention with them. But now she doesn't want to admit her responsibility and is claiming that she did all those things because she was 'groomed', despite being, even if stupid, but still a 25-years old adult. Dude, she was 25 and a nobody. "She's leaning into my chair", like she's making something of nothing, and rowland can deny that she even intentionally did it, so she's forced to stay quiet about it. I talked about these concerns with DongWon Song, who was my agent at the time, as well as Lynch’s (and still is). I don't know what amounts to a good response on this, but this is about as good as it gets, I think. 4,399. Powered by Invision Community, Scott Lynch and Elizabeth Bear Accused by Alexandra Rowland, Westeros: The 'A Song of Ice and Fire' Domain, House of the Dragon Showrunner Interviewed, Folio Society Publishes A Storm of Swords Illustrated Edition, HBO Reveals First Actor Cast in House of the Dragon, Game of Thrones Complete Collection (Blu-Ray). Isn't this a kind of micro-aggression? Bear's response is terrible. Over the last five years, I have heard about four other women--all young, baby writers who were delighted to have professional and creative mentorship--who have been mistreated by Lynch and Bear. She's focusing on all these random aspects, like food gone bad being left in her fridge, and thinking Alex was moving more than an hour away - this is somehow important because she was letting Alex stay with her while looking for a new place, but wasn't comfortable with them living close by, for some reason. You can post now and register later. When I thought I was a one-off incident, I was willing to shut up and keep quiet--don’t cause drama, it’s not worth it, it’ll blow over and they’ll leave you alone. The day after I got the offer, he was over to see me for our monthly lunch and, being very excited and still considering Lynch a confidante and a mentor, I told him about it. Fantasy Author Alexandra Rowland Accuses Scott Lynch and Elizabeth Bear of Grooming and Abuse. He gave me no professional advice, did not ask any questions. On the success and power of Scott Lynch: he might not be GRRM or JK Rowling but he's pretty definitely one of the most successful and visible authors of the last two decades in SFF.

I am, so, sorry you had to go through this. Alexandra Rowland was delighted by Scott's attention, though didn't want to be a … We want to create an inspiring environment for our members and have defined a set of guidelines.

I have been largely disassociated with the scene for the last 5 years or so, but Mark Lawrence was certainly a difficult person to 'cross' long before 2016. × You are so brave for speaking out, and you have all of my support.

If I know about four of them, I can only assume there are others I don’t know about. He was very dedicated too, since he continued to pursue the relationship after Rowland spilled the beans to his wife. This one really hurts because I am really invested in the Gentleman Bastards, but I hope you realize on reflection that threatening a defamation lawsuit in this situation is not only legally stupid, it's actually worse than what you are being accused of. × I was groomed and abused by Scott Lynch and Elizabeth Bear for several years. I was terrified she’d spread rumors about me being a homewrecker -- I was young and pretty and redheaded, after all.

That’s a much more severe offense since it’s literally grooming a minor into some sort of a relationship.

I didn’t want anybody to know about this. Your entire fanbase are behind you Scott. Anyway, Lynch has responded, both to the situation itself and to his fans. He didn't even disinvite her from his supposedly 'clients-only' slack chat. My wife and I talked about it and it bugged us both all day long, but had also come to the conclusion things seemed off.

It's been a hell of a 48-72 hours in SFF. Rowland was 25 years old and capable of making her own decisions.

And whoever's telling the truth we know Lynch did wrong. Yeah sorry, on my phone and between calls. My understanding is that “grooming” is not. I know of at least three other friends/acquaintances who abruptly ended their association with me. Jun 26, 2020 . So. Then this person you've cut entirely out of your life, a person who triggers nothing but awful memories of abuse in you, inserting themselves into a situation with you and then getting in your personal space, provoking you. And while Lynch's behaviour was terrible, that's not something that deserves such serious accusations like grooming or sexual assault, and really should have only been the matter of those involved and not the whole public. Rowland doesn't want to be called a homewrecker but in my mind she clearly was one, even if she doesn't want to admit it and blames it all on 'grooming'. Except that I can’t keep quiet about it, because there ARE other people who have needed help.

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